Can you believe that we are only five weeks away from Christmas? I am SO looking forward to focusing on joy, hope and peace with my family instead of COVID-19 and election news for a few days. This year
has been a dumpster fire has been so hard, and it’s only right that we saturate ourselves with joy whenever and wherever we can.
When it comes to the holidays, one thing that always throws me for a loop each year is deciding how to ask for gifts that I actually want for myself and for my little one. I’ve never been big on receiving gifts, but like most people, I appreciate nice things given with intention and love. Now that I have a toddler, I am particular about the toys he plays with so its in my best interests to be specific about what I ask for. I hate the thought of our family and friends wasting money on things that he won’t use, so I decided that it’s time stop being bashful and give them some guidance on what sorts of gifts I’d like to receive.
Here are my tips on how to ask for gifts that you actually want this Christmas.
1. Make a wish list or gift guide
Since Lennox has been born, we’ve been using wish lists to requests gifts that would be beneficial to him. Well, this year,
I may have had too much time on my hands I decided to make a gift guide. Gift guides are awesome because it allowed me to not only add pictures and links to the gifts that we’d like to receive, but there was also space for me to share updates and pictures of Lennox. I sent the gift guide out to family and friends who are pretty much guaranteed to get him something (grandparents, aunts and uncles) for Christmas. And since most of our family will ask me what they should get him anyway, this gift guide will help them to purchase items that he’ll get the most value from.
2. Explain why you are requesting certain gifts
This may be somewhat controversial, but there are some things I’m willing to do if it makes my family more comfortable with getting what I ask for. When I made the gift guide with what I’d like for Lenny, around 90% of what was on the list was Montessori-inspired. We like these Monti toys because most focus on a specific skill, or they tend to inspire open-ended play, which encourages Lenny to use his imagination and ingenuity a bit more. When I explained this to our family and friends last year, they completely understood why I asked that they not purchase certain toys. Some people may see explaining as a burden, but I have no problem discussing the choices we’ve made for him. If it means that he gets the item that he’ll actually play with, it’s a win.
3. Share gratitude for what they’ve gifted to you
My grandmother was a stickler when it came to writing thank you cards. I remember her lectures about why they mattered, and I know that she’d be so mad at me if she knew that I’m horrible at writing them now.
But, I do believe that a personal thank you goes a long way. Whether it be a card, text, phone or Facetime call, just make sure the person knows that you appreciate them getting you something nice. They will remember your gratitude.
When it comes to asking for what you want, do you just ask for what you want, do you drop hints, or do you just accept whatever is given? I’d love to learn how you navigate this.